"I still catch myself feeling sad about things that don’t matter anymore."
When I asked a male friend of mine what he thought about Hard To Get, he told me: “Well, you know, there is a right and a wrong way to play Hard To Get.”
“It’s fine if she’s all Oh, I don’t know…I’ve been hurt before…let’s take it slow. But I hate when she lays it on too thick. Not just ‘hard’ to get—impossible to get!”
“You mean, when she’s really saying No?”
“Yeah! It really pisses me off. I’m a nice guy, so why does she have to be such a bitch?”
My friend played by the rules, fought hard for a woman’s attention, and thus felt entitled to his “prize.” His reaction to being “cheated” was to label the woman who refused her consent a “bitch.” Were he to say this to her directly, it would be a verbal assault. Were he to forcefully push on to get what he felt he had “earned,” it would be rape."
dear anyone who talks about the friend zone, thinks it exists, or thinks that they are stuck in it:
No means No.
No does not mean convince me.
No does not mean I’m playing hard to get.
Your being nice to me does not require me to date you or anything else.
My friendship is not some shitty consolation prize that you get when i won’t sleep with you or date you.
Can we stop leaking pictures from Catching Fire? Please?? I’d like to actually enjoy the experience of seeing it in theatres, the anticipation of how they’re going to adapt the book into a movie is actually enjoyable.